Home is no longer where the ♥ is

Does your significant other spend more time out the house than they do in the house? Do they find reasons not to be around or interact with you? Well before you point to cheating, lets look at whats going on in house first. People are always quick to ask the question is there someone else, like there cant possibly be anything wrong in their relationship. Home is supposed to be a place of peace and tranquility. Not to say its perfect or it wont be problems. But home should be therapy. Home is supposed to be your escape from the world. But all to often home is the place of nagging bickering, harsh words and foul thoughts. For those of you who don't know, at one point in my life i was married, and towards the end of my marriage is when i would rather have been at work than be home. So i know a little about this topic :). Every relationship is about communication and compromise. People must stop getting their relationship advice from pop culture. In case you haven't noticed these people don't know how to have relationships either. First thing first talk to each other, that's the only way that you both will know what is going on. No women men aren't mind readers. And men women are just as clueless about us as we are about them, they hav just oversimplified us to make life easier for them lol. But there is a time and a place to talk, remember what i sad earlier, home is a place of therapy. Both need to sit on the couch and work out their problems, and once you leave the confines of home no one should know about your problems. Which brings me to the next point, stop telling people your business and putting your business on social media, because anyone that knows you knows what your talking about. Most times, people only talk about a person when they get on your nerves. And people outside only see you complaining, but sticking around, then comes the comments about you being stupid, and you should have been gone. These thoughts being planted in your head only give way to you wanting to be gone. No one should know what goes on in your relationship. If you think about it most of your friends are single or in a relationship themselves. If they are single then they have a good reason to hate on your relationship because they don't have anyone, if they are in a relationship, then they probably go home and talk about your relationship, and laugh at you. KEEP YOUR BUSINESS TO YOURSELF.
Now if you think about it and your communication isn't lacking or causing the issue, you have to then look at things like your sex life or how often you do things other than sit at home, things like that. So we will touch on sex life. Both sexes have fantasies and things they want done, but then comes the issue of how to approach it. Sad to say in this day and age there are women who don't like to give head, not really a fantasy but something a man enjoys. There are still men who don't like to eat out, still not a fantasy but something we know that women love lol. Now i recently had this convo with 2 different women, one woman said she is cool with getting but not giving, the other woman said as long as she gets she has no issue giving. I brought up that to say this, are filling your significant others desires?? Not to say that they are out getting it from somewhere else, but if they are bored with whats going on at home, then why would they want to be there? It takes to to make a thing go right. You cant let the relationship die down, find spontaneous things to do, surprise that person. Nothing better than coming home to surprises. The only thing harder than getting someone is keeping em, and you have to be willing to put in the work to keep em. When you buy a car, you do everything in your power to take care of that car so you get the best performance out of it, why should your partner be any different, and guess what, if you two are maintaining each other, then no one has to be selfish and focus on themselves. Thus making the home a happy place yet again.
Now if none of this works, then that person is probably not interested and is getting their kicks elsewhere, in which case you should give them a kick......in the ass and out the door. But before you go to looking outside when a problem arises, try looking at whats going on within your walls.

Love,
The god