The Gray Space

Now Osiris has a point when he talks about knowing where you stand, but what happens when you know your role yet you find yourself taking on the responsibilities for a role you never signed up for?  Now everybody innately has a role from birth....son, daughter, or maybe both (let's just be real!). As you progress through life you pick up the roles of sister/brother, girlfriend/boyfriend, fiance/fiancee, wife/husband.  But do any of these roles come with guidelines? HELL NO, if so, please tell me where I can find it.  Now there are people who have been a child and had to take on the responsibilities as an adult for one reason or the other. Even though their role was a child, they acted like a parent/guardian/adult.  What about the girl or guy that has a relationship that started as just a "friendship" (and we know that's some fucking bullshit) but now this mug damn near your mate without a title? See this is the shit I refer to as the gray area.  The gray area is the place where the lines get skewed, the boundaries have been crossed, and the agreements are fucking complicated.  Now I understand the reasoning for roles; it has the same worth as levels of ethnicity.  Put a nigga in a space so I know where they at. But life is often more complicated than that and a lot of us don't even know where we at.  So I think the whole situation plays down to the simple understanding between the involved parties.  Despite titles, roles, and places, what have we decided to do and to be?  I can have access to a man like his woman, but I may not want the level of responsibility that comes with the title.  You may be the woman/man that wants the B.U.D.D.Y, but you can't fathom having accountability to a woman/man. Or maybe y'all are just being fucking punk ass bitches about the shit.  IDK!

But I have problem when the situation becomes volatile because some motherfucker is RENEGING and no longer wants to hold up their end of the damn bargain. Now I applaude aspirations.  If you want to be something better than what you are right now, good job. You can do it! (Sarcasm is a mutha!) However, if you're just the late night "Creep", don't aspire to be the "Boo".  THAT SHIT AINT GONNA WORK!!!!  That takes a whole new agreement, a whole new level of respect, and more than likely that chica/nigga is gonna just say "give me yo backey/dickey." So what about the person who secretly admires another, but plays the homeboy/girl role? Dude really, what you expect?  One day they just gonna see you with a breeze and a glow like you in a sitcom?  Come on, be for real now... Don't give people responsibilities that you do not want them to fulfill.  Don't create agreements, verbal commitments, or places that you are not willing to acknowledge and respect. Whatever the reasoning, your relationship is your relationship. Your agreements are your agreements, so live by them.  Regardless of what other people say, do and assume, you have to live with your actions everyday. I can't hate on a situation that works for you. The gray space belongs somewhere in all our lives. But how gray is your space?

~The Goddess~