Why the FUCK do you have KIDS?!?!?

Now I am generally a very nice person, but the one thing that will piss me off is the neglect of a child. This is for one reason and one reason alone, they didn’t ask to be here. Now many of y'all have probably been witnesses to some of the retarded shit that people do to their children. For example, the stupid ass chick, Toyrianna Smith of IL, who suffocated her 3 month old son because he wouldn't stop crying. Not only did she suffocate the baby to death, but took her dead son along on a shopping spree the next day. Really BITCH, really?! My favorite dumb asses are the women who consciously fuck around, get pregnant, and carry the baby to term only to drop them off in the nearest garbage can. WTF is wrong with these motherfuckers? What about the ones that have kids and treat them like shit, pawns in relationships, in-house babysitters, and fail to stimulate their mental, cultural, spiritual, and social growth? Now I have a theory about these people. These are the remnants of the stupid slaves. These are the descendants of the breeders, you know, the ones that the master purposely used for cattle. See the problem is these mofos keep breeding and breeding and breeding and then we end up with these sorry excuses for parents who allow their children to fuck around and end up with a kid before they are done being kids. I hate the parents who demean the children because all they see them as a mistake. Nobody told you to do the do. You GROWN, maybe; so MAN/WOMAN the FUCK UP!

Now I have a home girl, love this chick to death just because she just real. Now when I met her I thought she was a little cynical because she has some left-wing notations that involved relationships and children, but one thing that stuck out was the fact that she said that people need to take an EXAM before they are allowed to have a child, every time. An EXAM, really? YES! Who give the examination, the old school "Big Momma" from generations before. Some of us wouldn't even show up on test day because it requires reading. Some of us, would fail the common sense portion. Some would walk away from the whole thing as soon as they saw the words Selflessness, Commitment, and Sacrifice. A lot of us are not in relationships now because of these words, but what you fail to realize is that you have to have a relationship with you children as you would with another person. See your child requires more attention than anything else in your life. This includes yourself, your spouse, your job, your sleep, your food, etc., etc. Children require full commitment. They also require sacrifice. You can't go clubbing with the pamper money. That shit ain't cool. You can't put your child(ren) off on your family members, the neighbors, and expect the child to respect you as their parents. A real parent will tell you that despite the age of their child, they still have their back. My momma's favorite line when I try to remind her of my age is " You can be 99 years old, I'm still yo momma." I digress.

    Now I do not have kids for one simple reason. I refuse to have a kid with a fucking fool. There have been situations where children could have presented themselves, but it didn’t work out that way. I know my capabilities as a parent, but I refuse to do it by myself.   In that same token, I know many people who are well qualified individuals who refuse to have children because they do not want them interacting with the children of the "Breeders." Can you fault them? These people are who I consider to be the "Competents." But here is the problem, the "Breeders" have taken over the population and the "Competents" refuse to save the generation. When did it become brawn over brains? Our children are our legacy and how dare we allow the "Breeders" to write our future? I refuse to have another generation of people who allow their children to aspire to be Lil Weezy or Beyoncé, have subpar education, and no healthcare. I just personally dealt with this this weekend. My home girl (same one from the exam) gets her great niece and nephew once a month. They are beautiful children, but their parents are highly questionable. We took the kids swimming, but we were a little concerned because of a cough that the kids had. Never the less, after a night of weird sounds, breathing difficulties, and four hours after we intially called her mother, it was discovered that the little girl had pneumonia. PNEUMONIA! How the FUCK does your kid have pneumonia and you don't have a clue or more concern that "Oh it’s just a cough she's had for a while." Really BITCH, Really?!?! If your ass had health insurance for you kids (its free through MEDICAID), then your babies could get a doctor's appointment. How lazy can you be that you can't go fill out some paperwork for your kids? But you can fill out a child support request and an application for food stamps. Did their health just slip your damn mind? This is why I believe in our generation, the wrong people have kids.  Our fucking priorities are fucked up! Having a child for the sake of having a child is stupid without being somewhat prepared (you'll never have all the answers). That's like buying a gun and no fucking bullets. There are people out in the world who would be eternally grateful to have a child that they could love and nurture, but your ass is too selfish to see what’s best for your child. Giving your child up for adoption doesn't make you less of a parent, it shows that you are looking out for the wellbeing of your legacy. It also buys you some time before that child comes looking for you to ask why.

     I really don’t have more to say to the men than this. Be a FUCKING Father! Stop looking at your child(ren) as lost wages from your paycheck. Stop avoiding the mother because you can't stand her. You should have considered the fact that she was "Ratchet" when she was sucking and riding your dick. You should have also considered strapping up or learning how to control your dick muscles. Believe it or not, you can push your semen back or you can get a vasectomy. Keep your seed for someone who is worth it. Then do what the fuck you need to do for your family. You don’t have to continue the perpetual cycle of the "Lost Boys." Men accept the consequences of their actions and love their children unconditionally. If your baby momma is shell, get custody of your child(ren). Real women are not gonna respect the fact that you aren't in your child's life because " My baby momma is/didn't/won't....." Your children are angry because they feel neglected and unwanted. Men, your role in your child's life is just as important as the woman's. You are the first to teach your daughters about men and you are the initial influence on your sons' manhood. You were once scholars, teachers, educators, and warriors. Fight for the survival your legacy. Make sure that you children are better than you. Invest in them.

Family, process the pros and cons of your actions and love your children more that you love yourself. If you can't, give them to someone who can. Stop the senseless abuse that we as a community are inflicted on our youth. It truly takes a village to raise a child. WAKE up before all morality becomes extinct.

~The Goddess~